It’s a Mom eat Mom World!

Wow! I can’t believe how many just plain MEAN moms there are out there. I’m sure many moms are on different mom Facebook groups and can totally back me up when I say that as moms we can be so mean and so judgmental. Why is it that we feel the need to think that our way of parenting is so much better than anyone else’s?

I became a mom kind of young, at the age of 20. I had NO IDEA what I was doing. Fortunately for me I had great role models growing up, watching my mom & grandmother, & aunts be wonderful moms to their kids. At the time I had never really experienced the world of mom shamming, didn’t really know it existed. That was until 2 weeks after I gave birth to my little girl. I attempted to breastfeed her but it was unsuccessful. I always joke saying she drank me dry. Well I had no choice but to supplement formula, it’s what I had to do in order to take care of her. When I walked into the grocery store to get formula for the first time ever I was approached by another mom in the baby aisle getting baby food. Now we all know there are some moms that are to the book (the literally baby book guides) and there are some moms that are not that way. Well this mom WAS that way. Which, okay each to their own it works for her. She looked at me and gave me the dirtiest look EVER and I was barely out of high school so I knew dirty looks! Her words to me were, “You really should be breastfeeding.”. Without knowing me or my situation she judged me, made me feel like I was an insufficient mother to my child. From there on I have seen more & more of this “mom shamming” happening.

As moms we are in our own little club. We should be supporting each other and lifting each other up. Not making one mom feel terrible for her choice to use pacifiers or incapability to breastfeed or tearing a mom down for the fact that she is so dog tired she allows her child to eat frozen chicken nuggets in front of a television instead of a family meal around the table. We already as mothers have so much on our plates, do we really need to worry constantly about if what we are doing is going to be shamed upon.

I don’t care if a person stays at home and home schools their kids or if they work a 12 hour shift job and their child(ren) is in pubic school. If they are healthy & happy who are we to judge or tell that mom that what they are doing is wrong or bad? We are NEVER going to 100% agree with someone, we will never parent exactly the same as someone else, but we CAN be friends with someone even though they parent differently than us. our children CAN get along & play with a child that is not raised the same.

I am a firm believer that if we want something to change then we have to do something to make it happen. My way of making it happen is to not just tell my kids but to show my kids. Show my kids that they can get along with someone despite their differences. I want my kids to see that their mommy is trying to make a difference.

So Today I ask you to do me one favor. Leave a comment and tell me why you think you’re a good mom then share this post on your Facebook or Instagram or Email it to someone you think is a great mom telling them why. Let’s make just a tiny bit of difference today.

Stay-At-Home mom…. It’s WAR!

Why would any sane person not want to stay at home all day bake cookies & pies, keeping the house clean and watching children while they act like perfect angels? Sounds like the perfect life, Right? Lets get real people! Being a Stay-At-Home mom is not all it’s cracked up to be.

Let’s talk about WHY I chose to be stay-at-home moms? My reasoning (at first) was so I could finish my degree and help the hubby with his in-voicing for his business. It was only supposed to be for a year then I would start working after I graduated. Now flash forward 6 years, another baby born and here I am, still a SAHM! All of my kids  are in school as of August, but I still plan on being home. So why? Why would I be home when I’m perfectly able to go back to work and help rake in the dough for the household? Well, honestly, if my family can afford me to stay home and help run the business my husband has, do laundry & clean, while they are all at school, WHY NOT!

That’s the question we should be asking WHY NOT stay home IF you can! It’s hard work! I mean seriously running kids 2 days a week to Tae-kwon-do, one day a week to Gymnastics, to the bus stop, from the bus stop, to VPK & from VPK, all while having to juggle laundry on top of laundry, grocery shopping, sweeping, mopping, dusting, dishes, & vet visits. I mean the list could go on and on. This is a full-time job! One where the payment is getting to fight about homework, listening to fights about Play Stations and not picking up after themselves, but also in hugs & kisses when you have their favorite dinner fixed when they get off the bus cause they are starving. Payments of watching them test out of Yellow Belt & moving up to Level 3  in Gymnastics!

Being home all the time is not for the weak! It is a battlefield. A constant battle between housework, kids schedule, & social life. It’s not all coffee shops dates & shopping trips. I mean We are lucky to get a phone call to our mother in without sounding out of breath from all the running we are doing. Specially during summer time!

Right now school is out for summer here in Florida & let me tell you I’m drowning in questions, activities, fights, & boredom! “Take me to the Mall please!” says my 6-year-old daughter! “Can I play the Play Station?” asks my 4-year-old son. From the time they wake up at 7:30 till they go to bed, it’s never-ending. Keeping them busy is the key but that also means your just as busy and at times getting behind on the everyday things you need to do. When they go to bed I am still up getting dishes done, putting toys in the basket for tomorrows chores, folding blankets, & everything I didn’t get to do during the day. Only to be up the next morning bright an early to start it all over again.

Being home all the time I go crazy. The kids are fighting constantly and I feel like I get no time to myself. I tell my kids all the time “I’m changing my name to B*t*h. That way you’re not allowed to call my name anymore!” When you hear “MOM” a billion times a day you tend to go to extreme measures to make it stop. I LOVE being a mom and even more I LOVE being able to stay home and be a mom. Even if my house isn’t the cleanest all the time and my children don’t get to eat an organic, freshly grown in my yard dinner every night.

 

Being a stay-at-home mom is not easier than being a full-time working mom. It’s not better than being a working mom, it’s what I do as a mom because I can & it works best for MY family. It wont work for every family out there. I praise moms who can hold a full-time job, take kids to their sports or activities, clean house, cook meals, and still find time to sleep. You Gals are MVPs’ in my book. BUT with that said don’t count us mommies who stay at home out!

8 Kid-less days in the Keys!

Today  I wanted to change pace from Mommy-ing and tell you a bit about a trip my Hubby & I went on!

So just recently my wonderful hubby of mine & myself went on a great week-long vacation with NO kids! Yes, you read that right we actually went on a vacation for more than 2 days with absolutely no kids! In fact, we actually were the kids this go around! Even better than having no kids for a week, we were in the Keys. We traveled up and down the Keys for an entire 8 days!

It started with 2 nights in Key west at the great La Concha by Crown Plaza on Duval Street, just the two of us. Walking around seeing all the iconic tourist sites, mile marker zero, southern most point, Fat Tuesdays, & Marilyn Monroe. We had a couple of friends join us on Saturday where we decided Dante’s Pool & Bar was the place to be. This place was absolutely hands down one of my top 5 favorite places while we were there. If you don’t mind a good crowd of people drinking, playing floating beer pong, & good food that is.

We spent most of the day Sunday traveling north headed up to Marathon. Stopping in Big Pine Key to go looking for the infamous Key Deer. I love deer! Unfortunately we didn’t get to see any but we did find some cute Iguanas. (I spent ALOT of time taking pictures of these things throughout the trip). If you’re looking for a great place to stay in Marathon, I highly Recommend the Holiday Inn there! They are well-kept and right on a good canal. There is a cute tiki bar right next door (literally not even 100 ft away), and even places to get fishing charters right next door to that.

Monday we finally got to our resting spot for the week. Fiesta Key RV Resort, I could go into a whole other blog about the resort itself & maybe I will another day. Let’s just say on a scaled of 1 to 10 I’d give it a 5, Not to bad but not the greatest either. This is where we met up with the other 2 in our group of 6! We were spending the next 6 days with the 6 of us! It was about to get real interesting. Now something you should know is, we are a tight knit group of people. We spend most of our weekends getting together to go Air boating, Mudding, Fishing, cook outs, really anything out-door with the kids as families. But never have we spent even 1 night all of us under the same roof. I was nervous to say the least, but it turned out amazing.



Alot of the days were spent hanging out around the bridges fishing and sight seeing. But, since this is Florida we all know that mother nature is NEVER on our side. Its hot and sunny one moment and then the bottom falls out of the sky the next! It ruined our chances of going Offshore fishing for Mahi! But we did get to do some awesome Bar hopping!

As you can see ^^^^ we laughed, A LOT! Mainly at each other but still we had a blast. We did get to go Reef fishing a little with A great Captain. It was really rough (10-12 ft seas) I don’t know what we were thinking. Half of us got sick and the other half got to fish! We tore up some yellow tail snapper. Luckily enough I was one that got to fish!

It was a dream come true for me. But not so much for hubby! Yes that’s me, the loving caring wife rubbing his back (in between catching fish) while he YAKED!

Our trip was not complete with out one last visit to Key West again! We attempted the Duval Crawl! Did you know, according to the bartender at the Green Room, that there are 90 Bars on the 1.5 mile stretch of Duval Street? Yeah I didn’t realize that. And to do the Duval Crawl, you must get a drink at each one of those 90 bars! Needlessly to say, we failed! But we sure did have tons of fun trying!

I missed my babies for sure, but it was a great, relaxing , fun time that I for sure needed from this thing that we call life!