Wow! I can’t believe how many just plain MEAN moms there are out there. I’m sure many moms are on different mom Facebook groups and can totally back me up when I say that as moms we can be so mean and so judgmental. Why is it that we feel the need to think that our way of parenting is so much better than anyone else’s?
I became a mom kind of young, at the age of 20. I had NO IDEA what I was doing. Fortunately for me I had great role models growing up, watching my mom & grandmother, & aunts be wonderful moms to their kids. At the time I had never really experienced the world of mom shamming, didn’t really know it existed. That was until 2 weeks after I gave birth to my little girl. I attempted to breastfeed her but it was unsuccessful. I always joke saying she drank me dry. Well I had no choice but to supplement formula, it’s what I had to do in order to take care of her. When I walked into the grocery store to get formula for the first time ever I was approached by another mom in the baby aisle getting baby food. Now we all know there are some moms that are to the book (the literally baby book guides) and there are some moms that are not that way. Well this mom WAS that way. Which, okay each to their own it works for her. She looked at me and gave me the dirtiest look EVER and I was barely out of high school so I knew dirty looks! Her words to me were, “You really should be breastfeeding.”. Without knowing me or my situation she judged me, made me feel like I was an insufficient mother to my child. From there on I have seen more & more of this “mom shamming” happening.
As moms we are in our own little club. We should be supporting each other and lifting each other up. Not making one mom feel terrible for her choice to use pacifiers or incapability to breastfeed or tearing a mom down for the fact that she is so dog tired she allows her child to eat frozen chicken nuggets in front of a television instead of a family meal around the table. We already as mothers have so much on our plates, do we really need to worry constantly about if what we are doing is going to be shamed upon.
I don’t care if a person stays at home and home schools their kids or if they work a 12 hour shift job and their child(ren) is in pubic school. If they are healthy & happy who are we to judge or tell that mom that what they are doing is wrong or bad? We are NEVER going to 100% agree with someone, we will never parent exactly the same as someone else, but we CAN be friends with someone even though they parent differently than us. our children CAN get along & play with a child that is not raised the same.
I am a firm believer that if we want something to change then we have to do something to make it happen. My way of making it happen is to not just tell my kids but to show my kids. Show my kids that they can get along with someone despite their differences. I want my kids to see that their mommy is trying to make a difference.
So Today I ask you to do me one favor. Leave a comment and tell me why you think you’re a good mom then share this post on your Facebook or Instagram or Email it to someone you think is a great mom telling them why. Let’s make just a tiny bit of difference today.